22.6.14

To Parent's & Couples

Texto com versao em Portugues seguida da versao em Ingles

To all parents and couples, and all the people who deal with baby's and children:

We have in our hands the next generation of this planet.
In our hands, we shape the clay where future couples, fathers, mothers, professionals and leaders, the next generation that will end with the old, antiquated and aristocratic standards of disharmonious relationships in dysfunctional homes.


It touches to all of us, as parents, the ability to work with honesty our differences interiors and exteriors, in the couple for the sake of harmony in the home where our children grow up. If they know that the mother and / or father are actively present and in harmony as a couple in the Home where you can breathe peace, love and emotional stability, makes them feel safe and that "All is well in their world."
If we give proper support in Love, Loving Education and not repressive, (explaining the whys of the Not do something and being patient with their little accidents), Quality Time, support in developing them and give them adequate physical and mental stimulation, basic care (eating, dressing, keep them clean and maintained) a Harmonious Home created by a couple, Freedom of action and expression (and not a repressive attitude that castrates them at birth), among other factors...
...Imagine ... and stop to think about:
What they will be when become adults?
How much these children can expand and develop their own innate abilities?

Many adults never in all their life's, gets to touch that unique spark of creativity that lies in each one of us, because of a repressive education with castrating parents that never knew how to go over their own childhoods and enhance the qualities and abilities of their children, who are now our generation.

Over the last years I have worked in psychotherapy and spiritual counseling in the area of Life Coach, and in my own experience and observation of family and friends and society, watching many of us were raised in homes with parents who were dysfunctional as a couple, were it was absent a circle of union and love, and as such both scored in childhood and shaped our beliefs and our behavior patterns in adults, face the areas of relationship with us, with others, work, money, prosperity, success and health.
Also they, our parents, more than us, were created in austere homes with zero amount of love and harmony and many of them with physical violence. If you stop to think about it, we can give ourselves as fortunate for everything they have given and done for us, that was much more than they ever had. Knowing this, we now can understand and feel compassion for their own childhoods and forgiving them without resentment, getting us free from all these Past experiences.
Compete to all of us, Today, being responsible for our lives instead of poor victim's, taking out our own responsibility per our actions and reality, putting the blame on others or in our childhoods. Every one of us have the Power to Change, changing our patterns and negative beliefs derived from dysfunctional childhoods in homes with parents who do not know how to do better.
So when we are predisposed to have the Courage to look within and work out us from the inside, only then, the reality of our days will start to change.
Only when We change internally, everyone and everything around us will change.
So, it is possible that even in an apparent difficult relationship, things change and become a truly loving relationship of union and harmony.
When we have children, and if we have not done it before, we have the obligation and responsibility to work out us Internally, with the final and ultimate goal of having happy children growing up under the roofs of homes that now we rule.
Its very easy to just jump out of the relationship to don't see our own defects.
The difficult task is to Stay and work out ourselves and the relationship.
Everyone who have children or live with children present in their lives, stop to think about this:
What Future Generation you want to help build up?
What future couples, parents, professionals you want to live and take care of this Planet for the future generations?
This happening NOW.
It is in Your hands, here and now, the clay that you will shape the future generation.

My daughter Divya one year and eight months, at the evening enjoy watching videos of children with music and dance for her self sing and dance. My partner found this video yesterday that I share here, and in the end, to both of us came tears to our eyes, something have touched inside of us.
This 3 year old boy, lives obviously in a home filled with love and surrounded by family members who actively encourage his empowerment talents and mental sharpness.
I suggest each of you, who felt to read this text until the end, some moments of reflection on this subject.
Grateful for your time.
Sonia

Portuguese Version

A todos os Pais, Maes e Casais, e todas as pessoas que lidam com bebes e criancas:

Temos nas nossas maos a proxima geracao deste Planeta.
Nas nossas maos, o barro onde vamos moldar os casais, pais, maes, profissionais e governantes, a proxima "fornada" que terminara com os velhos e antiquados padroes aristocraticos de relacionamentos desarmoniosos em lares disfuncionais.
Compte-nos a nos, em primeiro lugar como pais, sermos aptos a trabalhar-mos com honestidade as nossas diferencas interiores, e exteriores, no casal em prol da harmonia no Lar onde os nossos filhos crescem. Saberem que teem a mae e/ou o pai activamente presentes e em harmonia como casal num Lar onde se respira paz, amor e estabilidade emocional, fa-los sentir seguros e que "Tudo esta bem no seu Mundo".
Se dermos o suporte adequado em Amor, Educacao Amorosa e nao repressora, (explicando os porques do Nao fazer algo e sendo paciente com os seus pequenos acidentes), Tempo de Qualidade, Suporte em desenvolve-los e dar-lhes a adequada estimulacao fisica e mental, Cuidados Basicos (comer, vestir, mante-los limpos e cuidados), um Lar Harmonioso criado por um Casal Unido, Liberdade de accao e expressao ( e nao uma atitude repressora que os castra logo a nascenca), entre outros factores.
Imaginem...e parem para pensar:
Que adultos se tornarao?
Quanto estas criancas poderao expandir e desenvolver as suas proprias inatas capacidades?

Muitos adultos nunca, em toda a sua vida, chega a tocar aquela fagulha de criatividade unica e presente em cada um de nos, devido a uma educacao repressora de pais castradores que nunca souberam ultrapassar as suas proprias infancias e potenciar as qualidades e capacidades dos seus filhos, que sao agora a nossa geracao.

Ao longo dos ultimos anos em que trabalho em psicoterapia e aconselhamento espiritual na area de Life Coach, e na minha propria experiencia e observacao de familia e amigos da minha geracao, observo como ainda muitos de nos fomos criados em lares disfucionais com pais que como casal estavam desajustados no seu circulo de uniao e amor, e como essa infancia tanto nos marcou e moldou as nossas crencas e os nossos padroes comportamentais, em adultos, face as areas de relacoes conosco proprios e com os outros, ao trabalho, dinheiro, prosperidade, sucesso e saude.
Tambem eles, nossos pais, muito mais que nos, foram criados e lares austeros, com quantidade zero de amor e harmonia e na sua grande maioria, com violencia fisica. Se pensarmos bem, podemos dar-nos como afortunados por tudo o que nos deram e fizeram por nos que foi muito mais do que algum dia eles tiveram. Pois entao, que saibamos compreender, sentir compaixao pelas suas proprias infancias e perdoar, sem ressentimento, libertando-nos de todas essas eperiencias do Passado.
Compete-nos a nos, Hoge, sermos Responsaveis pelas nossas vidas em vez de pobres victimas, desesresponsabilizando-nos pels nossas accoes colocando as culpas em outrem ou nas nossas infancias. A cada um de nos aufere-nos o Poder de Mudar, alterando os nossos padroes e crencas negativas oriundas de infancias em lares disfuncionais com pais que nao souberam fazer melhor.
So quando nos predispomos a termos Coragem de olhar para dentro e trabalhar-mo-nos de dentro para fora, e que a Realidade dos nossos dias ira comecar a mudar.
So quando Mudamos Internamente, e que TUDO e TODOS a nossa volta mudara.
Deste modo, e possivel que ainda numa aparente relacao dificil, as coisas mudem e se torne uma relacao verdadeiramente amorosa, de uniao e harmonia.
Ao termos filhos, e se ainda nao o fizemos antes, por eles temos a Respnsabilidade e Obrigacao de nos Trabalharmos Internamente, com o final e supremo objectivo de termos criancas felizes que crescem sobre os tectos dos lares que hoje governamos.
A todos aqueles que teem filhos ou criancas presentes nas suas vidas, parem para pensar:
Que futura geracao querem ajudar a construir?
Que futuros casais, pais, profissionais querem que vivam e cuidem deste Planeta nas geracoes futuras?
Esta a acontecer AGORA.
Esta nas vossas maos, aqui e agora o barro com que vao moldar a proxima fornada a futura geracao.

A minha filha Divya com um ano e oito meses, a noite gosta de ver videos de criancas com musica e danca para ela propria cantar e dancar. O meu companheiro ontem encontrou este video que partilho aqui, e que no final, aos dois, nos vieram as lagrimas aos olhos por ter tocado algo dentro de nos.
Este menino de 3 anos, vive, obviamente num lar repleto de amor e rodeado por familiares que o estimulam activamente no potenciamento dos seus dons e discernimento mental.
Sugiro a cada um de vos, que sentiu de ler este texto ate ao fim, uns momentos de reflexao acerca deste tema.
Grata pelo vosso tempo.
Sonia




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